Go with the flow of the universe and watch how things fall into place for you. Instead of swimming upstream choose to obide the tide and flow with the universe. When you resist things, it is like you are swimming upstream, swimming against nature's natural currents and it's hard work.
When you go with the flow, you have the wind behind your back and the support of the universe and things flow more easily so everything is easier for you. Let go of wanting to control everything and let go of any self criticism so you can propel forward.
Be thankful and give your attention to being grateful. Showing gratitude helps you get into the flow so your life can flow more effortlessly. Let your inner spirit guide you and accept the help of others along the way.
Ask yourself, "how has wanting to control everything worked for you so far?" By allowing others to be who they were meant to be you free yourself from heavy thoughts and you too can become more of who you were meant to me as judging others less leads you to judging yourself less.